Have you ever sat at the playground watching groups of moms chatting and wondering how you could edge your way into the convo? Us, too. How moms meet new friends can seem like a math problem everyone else has solved, but the fact is a lot of those mom friends you’re envying probably met while pregnant or have known each other since college. Maybe they were in the same birthing class or heck, maybe they’re sisters. While it’s easy there on the playground to imagine that those two uber hip mamas just met, our guess is that they’re really BFFs. For life.
Why is it so hard to meet moms, anyway? Oh, we can think of a few reasons: Moms are tired. Moms are stressed. Moms have all kinds of crazy schedules. Some moms are dealing with their kids’ health issues. Single moms may be doubly busy. Moms are sometimes shy. Or intimidating. Or easily intimidated. And to top it all off, moms are just people, so even if you have kids and another mom has kids doesn’t necessarily mean you’re destined to be besties. Or will even have a decent conversation over coffee.
But hey, don’t lose heart, mama! Moms meet new friends mainly by being friendly and persevering in the search, even if at times it feels awkward and weird. That’s not to say there’s nothing you can do to make it a little easier to meet moms. For example, you could:
- Use your kids’ friends to meet moms. Schedule playdates with daycare buddies – if applicable – and have snacks and drinks ready for a little mom bonding party.
- Look for moms’ groups that aren’t age specific and join. Even if it turns out the group isn’t for you, you could still make a new friend.
- Hang out in the children’s room at your library and look for moms wrangling kids similar in age to your own. Then *gulp* strike up a convo about that book junior is reading.
- Sign up for town-sponsored community activities for kids. Or swimming. Or music classes. And so on. Be outgoing, even if you have to force it a little.
- Ask your spouse if s/he works with anyone with kids – and schedule a dinner exchange or couple’s dinner.
- Join the gym and strike up a chat with other moms at the childcare room or join Stroller Strides. Fitness and the prospect of new friends – can’t beat that!
- Just had your baby? Sign up for a post-natal fitness class at the Y. You’ll meet other women who may want to meet moms as much as you do.
- Sign up for Mom Meet Mom. What’s that? You’ll just have to wait and see!