It can be annoying when people like myself include “every mom should” in a blog title. Like here we go, just another know-it-all with a bullhorn telling us what to do, right? Well, maybe. But I think you’ll find the tips below to be enlightening instead of irritating. As you choose what messages to take home with you for the day, I hope you will include some of the ones below. With that in mind, I’ll keep it short.
To all my fellow moms and mums out there (new and experienced), I ask you right now – today – to stop…
1. Comparing yourself to other moms. The grass is always greener, right? Stop wasting your time envying what’s on the other side of the fence. Chances are, you’re missing the entire picture. Focus on your own amazing life and family.
2. Feeling guilty. Way easier said than done but next time you decide to be hard on yourself just remember what you’ve physically and mentally put yourself through to get to where you are today. You are nothing less than a superhero.
3. Listening to naysayers. They will creep up on you when your pregnant, sideline you when you’re a new mom, pop out of the woodwork at the PTA meetings and bump into you at prom. Just smile and nod and move on.
4. Ignoring your motherly instinct. You have it because it’s real. It may surface when you don’t want to leave your kids with a certain individual, when the doctor tells you something about your child you don’t agree with, and when you’re in a situation that is uncomfortable to you for some reason… you just can’t pinpoint it. That’s your gut talking. We all have it… start listening to it.
5. Over-complicating things. Life is short and even shorter for some. In an era where magazines, Macbooks, and billboards force information down our throats, let’s try not to lose sight of the important things in life. And what’s important to me might not be important to you. Stop trying to focus on the “right things”. Pay attention to the things that mean the most to you. Everything else can wait.
6. Thinking you can do it all yourself. You probably can but that’s not the point. It takes a village to raise a child (I know, so cliche), and every mom deserves a break. Whether you lean on your partner, your family, friends, or mom friends nearby, it’s important to ask for help. You’ll be surprised how big your village is when you open the door.
Would you add anything to this list? I just know I’m missing something here….