Featured Single Mom Sensation, Kerri Zane

All you single moms put your hands up for this week’s featured mom, Kerri Zane.  For those of you who may not know Kerri, she is an Emmy award-winning twenty year executive TV producer, healthy living expert, single mom advisor, spokesperson, speaker, and Amazon best selling author. This single momma of two beautiful daughters lives in Long Beach California and can be spotted all over the country appearing on morning talk shows and keynoting major events. We were able to snag her for this exclusive interview.

Let’s get personal right off the bat. You were married two times. Tell us a bit about these marriages and help us understand why they didn’t work out.

Wow! You don’t pull any punches. Though I dated my first husband for 5 years we were married for a short time. My second husband I met and married within 6 months and we stayed together for 12 years. So, no rhyme or reason there. I would have to say that I believe I chose similar men, neither really a good fit for our personality types.

You have two beautiful daughters. How have you lead them through these experiences?

I am blessed with two amazing daughters who never went through the “terribles” at two or in their teens. I believe it is the unquestionable knowing that I love them unconditionally and that they can trust me implicitly for anything and everything that makes our bond so strong. I also think that on some level they like parenting me as much as I parent them. In many respects we treat each other as equals. They appreciate the confidence I have in them that they will make the right choices.

  

You’ve created quite a brand for yourself as a single mom powerhouse. What led you to choose this path and how has it been for you?

Experiencing divorce is a trauma. For me I felt very alone, afraid and unsure of myself on so many levels. I wanted to create a space and a place for other single moms going through the same experience to feel comforted by the fact that what they are going through is not uncommon and there is a support for them should they choose to reach out.

Based on your Amazon reviews it looks like your book has been a serious guiding tool for single moms everywhere. Heck, I loved your book and I’m a married mom! Why don’t you give our audience a brief overview of It Takes All 5 and your 5 Finger Philosophy.

My book, “It Takes All 5: A Single Mom’s Guide to Finding the REAL One” is divided into three sections each containing 5 important concepts to master.  When put into practice they can help single moms heal their inside and outside.

The 5 finger philosophy is a guide to help women finally find not just ‘the one’ but ‘the REAL one’ for a happily even after “REAL”ationship.

Having worked with so many single moms, what would you say the number 1 challenge is for single moms across the board?

The most challenging issue for single moms is pulling herself back together, feeling whole and ready to re-enter the world of mating and dating with confidence.

We have many single mom users on Mom Meet Mom. Do you have any specific advice for these women as it relates to getting out there and getting social with other moms?

Don’t be afraid to reach out and build your village. There are no unimportant or silly questions and connecting with other moms is a wonderful way to make likeminded (and quite possibly lifelong) friends. It’s also important to understand their is no shame in asking for help. You don’t get extra gold stars for doing it all yourself, so don’t get all stressed about it. Share the load with other moms.

What has dating been like since your divorce?

I have a saying, “Dating is a journey, not a means to an end.” Single moms have had our kids and our white gown moment. Now it’s time to chill. There is no rush to get to the altar.  So rather than testing every guy you meet to see if he qualifies as “the real one,” enjoy the experience of learning something from every person you  meet. Even if its just that you don’t want to date someone like him again.

As a busy mompreneur, how do you set aside time for yourself and what do you do with that time?

I make a point of doing a 60 minute workout every single morning. Not only is it good for my body, but it is my form of meditation. It clears my head.

What’s your mom super power?

That’s funny, I never thought of having super powers. But I have to say I am a heck of a multi-tasker!

Aside from being an inspirational success for single moms everywhere, you are an educated lady. Talk to us a bit about your education and how it’s guided you to where you are now.

I received a BA in Sociology from UCLA and an MA in Spiritual Psychology from USM. My education has been invaluable in assisting single moms as they navigate undoubtedly one of THE most challenging times in their lives.

I noticed that you also have become a certified personal trainer and weight management consultant. How does health fit into your busy life?

For a while I thought I’d become a personal trainer, but the book and single mom advising took off. It’s an adjunct to my skills and I’m happy to share all I  know about nutrition and fitness with my clients.

You are running a pretty awesome webinar series. What will single moms out there gain from signing up?

Yes. I am so excited about my upcoming From STUCK to Success: How to Divorce The Drama & Become A Single Mom Super Star Project.  This webinar platform allows me to share with lots of moms, what I normally do for clients one on one. It’s geared for moms who might be Contemplating divorce, in the midst of a divorce, or still reeling from a divorce. Those feeling stigmatized by society for suddenly being single again or worried about how their kids are handling the divorce, or trying to figure out how to talk to them about dating after divorce

For anyone interested in learning more I encourage them to Join me for the FREE Call Wednesday, September 11 5pm Pacific | 8pm Eastern

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The Next 50 Mom Meet Mom Members Will Automatically Win a Dolly’s Adventures Book!

Call your sisters, call your mothers, call your babysitters! You don’t want to miss this fun new member giveaway. Starting today, the next 50 moms and caregivers to sign up at Mom Meet Mom will receive a hardcopy Dolly’s Adventures Book. Mother/Daughter author team Lynne and Alison Grossman creatively address positive concepts like sun safety, healthy eating, patience, and being a good listener throughout this engaging series. And the adorable clothes and accessories bring each book to life, giving your child a chance to play out Dolly’s adventures with their own doll.

For a complete Dolly Adventures Book review by Mom Meet Mom Co-Founder, Christa Terry and daughter, P., click here.

To qualify for this giveaway, you must be a new member of Mom Meet Mom. To enter:

1. Create a profile with Mom Meet Mom and make sure you upload a profile picture

2. You will receive a confirmation email containing a link to the Dolly Adventures website with a unique redemption code.

3. If you are one of the first 50 new members to sign up once the promo goes live and follow the steps above, you will be shipped a hard copy book.

And if you miss the 50-member window, you can still download a digital copy of the book for free for a limited time using the same code. Good luck ladies!


“The Dolly Adventures” is a series of fun, beautifully illustrated, hardcover storybooks that promote positive interaction and learning between a child and her doll. These child-friendly experiences transcend into real-life situations that teach valuable lessons ranging from developing healthy eating habits to practicing sun safety, while promoting kind behavior and a positive attitude. To learn more, visit www.dollyadventures.com

Featured Mom: KT Discusses Mom-preneurship or ‘Why I Need to Make Internet Friends’

This week’s featured mom is KT. She’s a bike shop owner with two small boys, and she sometimes blogs here but hasn’t in a long time. She opted to guest blog for us about how her super demanding schedule makes it hard to engage in the kind of social stuff that keeps her sane. KT’s solution? Online mom bonding. And getting together with mom friends when she can, even if she wishes that were more often. Here’s what she had to say.

mom meet mom - online mom friendsI own a small business. As in, my husband and I work there all by ourselves.

It’s a bike shop – I do all the bookkeeping, ordering, pricing things, marketing, sales, as well as a bunch of the bike mechanic grunt work when we get busy. While winters can be low-key, the seasonal aspect means that for six of the best-weather months of the year, we’re working at a crazy pace to keep up with demand. From April to October, we both put in at least 50 hours a week. Everything else falls to the wayside until the weather gets cooler again. We don’t get two days off together until Columbus day.

Oh, and did I mention I have two boys, a two year old and a four year old? There’s that, too. That can be a time suck. The older one gets off the bus at 12:30 every day and spends a part of his day at our shop. So I have to parent while I work. It’s crazy. It can be completely overwhelming.

Being your own boss can be a tough situation. Some people love it, but others like me can really struggle with it. Having no coworkers – and very little time with adult friends because of kids and work – is incredibly draining. I work with my husband all day – and while we get along well, I’d be lying if I said working alongside someone, then going home to parent with them before sleeping in the same bed with them was just a delight every day. There’s no outlet to vent to, no way to meet new people, no coffee or water cooler talk about whatever’s happening. We only have the time and brain capacity to talk about work and our kids.

My saving grace has been the internet.

Facebook can get a bad rap for being vapid and brain-rotting, but for normally social people like myself, it can mean the difference between sinking into depression and staying afloat. It might sound silly, but as an extrovert, I really thrive on interaction with friends, and staying connected is all I can do most of the time – schedules are tight for everyone. Keeping up makes all the difference.

At the same time, a night having a few drinks with a friend or two is a huge stress buster for me. In reality, I need more friends who have the time to meet for a drink or two now and again! Except I don’t have time to actively seek out new mom-friends (so I’m excited for the launch of Mom Meet Mom). I’m lucky I have the ones I’ve got now, through random circumstance, old friendships, and sometimes other entrepreneurs who have kids, but naturally, everyone has lives just as busy as mine – making that time to be social is hard no matter what you do for work.

I’m also opinionated, left wing, have multiple tattoos, piercings, and pink hair. I make fart jokes. I can certainly see why people would be reluctant to become my friend – I sure would! I keep the faith, though. I look forward to being able to say “Here I am! LET’S GET COFFEE AND TALK ABOUT OUR WEINER KIDS AND FUTURAMA!” and have a new person say “Sounds amazing, let’s get a pint TONIGHT!”

Do you have a story to share that would make you a great Featured Mom? Email christa@mommeetmom.com with a brief summary of what makes your story special and whether you’d like to write a guest post or do a Q&A for a chance to be featured at Mom Meet Mom.

Where Moms Meet: Thoughts On Meeting Moms While in Labor

(I started this while still in the early stages of labor with my second child. If it gets increasingly incoherent as I go on, forgive me. Labor pain actually kinda hurts!)

All right, so realistically, you are unlikely to make mom friends *while in labor,* unless your doc/midwife/nurse is a mom and you really take a shine to her in between pushes. Still, mom friends can play an important role in making you feel like your labor and delivery process is a success.

Take my situation. Truth be told, I’m still building my mom tribe, and while I do have a few close mom friends, many of those women are not actually in my neighborhood. And with the birth of my second child imminent, I find myself in a conundrum.

Miss Bubba, my firstborn, who just turned three, is a lovely, sweet girl. She also has rather strong separation and stranger anxiety. Babysitters are right out – it takes *months* of paying someone to hang out with both of us before the Miss feels comfortable enough for me to take even a brief grocery run on my own. The closest family is my sister, who lives in Portland, roughly four hours’ drive from here. Sister is, naturally, en route as we speak, but that four hours that made her my back-up rather than primary labor support also means that Bubba doesn’t see her quite enough to be thrilled at the prospect of being in her care all day. I do have two mom friends in the area who are close enough to provide back-up child care, but they have their own kids to worry about and it all just gets a little complicated.

I figure this could be very different if I had more local moms in my group of friends. Maybe, for example, Bubba would be up for her very first sleepover, and I wouldn’t bat an eye, because she would already have spent plenty of time in the care of a close mom friend. Or maybe a friend could host a sleepover here at my house! Maybe Bubba would have such a close bond with one of my mom friends that I could safely bring them both to the birth center, knowing that Bubba could find comfort with her special mom buddy while I focused on getting this darn baby out of my body already, yeesh. Seriously, labor lasts *forever,* and I’m pretty sure I’m not even within hours of being done yet. Stinkin’ uterus, what do I pay you for?

Um.

Right, sorry. Mom friends and havin’ babies. On it!

Even first-time moms can benefit a ton from having mom support close to home. Whether your friends are first-timers like you or veterans with multiple kids, older kids, what-have-you, it’s nice to have an ear to bend when things get frustrating, or when you’re out of your head from sleep deprivation, or when you just want someone to reassure you that baby poop really is supposed to look like that.

Right now, when I’m not breathing too heavily, I find myself wishing I’d had Mom Meet Mom back in August when I first learned I was pregnant. Connecting with moms like me in my local area? Sounds perfect! And while I am amazingly glad for the support I am receiving from the moms I’ve met since moving here, certainly a little more wouldn’t hurt, right?

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Moms Facing Challenges: You are NOT Alone

A while back, I wrote about the isolation that comes with having a preemie. Especially a newborn preemie. Even if you’ve made it home from the NICU, there may still be restrictions in place that mean no weekly mom’s groups. No baby playdates. No stepping out for a cup of coffee with a mom friend at a moment’s notice. No walking the mall. No visitors. Sounds pretty lonely, right? Meeting moms isn’t just hard for some parents of preemies – it can be downright dangerous when there’s a medical fragile baby whose health is on the line!

My own prematurity story was luckily not fraught with the kinds of challenges some moms face, but it wasn’t a walk in the park, either. We lucked out. Paloma was born at 34 weeks along, which is practically full-term compared to many preemies. In the NICU, the worst things we had to deal with were weight gain issues and her tendency to stop breathing and/or breathe in her food. But even so, she was born in the dead of winter, aka flu season, aka RSV season, aka the season where everyone seems to be snotting and coughing, so we pretty much kept to ourselves until April.

Here’s me talking about what that was like:

Now, prematurity isn’t the only challenge that can leave moms of new babies and of kids feeling isolated. When your child has a medical issue, it can feel like you’re the only mom in the world dealing with… a feeding tube. A trach. Autism. Down syndrome. CP. A wheelchair. But trust me, moms. No matter what challenges your entrance into motherhood – or your continuing journey of motherhood – brought with it, you are not alone. You are never really alone.

Out there, there are other moms like you. Maybe you can’t connect in person for whatever reason. But you can connect online. Chat with virtual besties. Get your social needs met even when leaving the house isn’t an option. Because isolation hurts and can lead to depression and anxiety. Reach out. Connect. Say hi through the ‘tubes’. Mom Meet Mom makes reaching out easier but you still have to take the first step. Let me say it again, though… whether you’re a preemie mom, a tubie mom, a mom coping with childhood diabetes, or a mom dealing with another challenge, you are not alone.

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T. Rex arms and Other Reasons Why Making Mom Friends Is Hard During Pregnancy

mom meet mom-CaseyGirardAs I write this, I am really, really pregnant. Really. Like, already a bit dilated, unapologetically duck waddling, can’t reach across the windshield to scrape morning frost because of my huge belly pregnant. And I’m a second time mom.

Pregnancy can be a really tough time to meet moms and make mom friends. I mean, sure, especially for first-time moms, there are structures in place that can help you connect with other pregnant ladies. Childbirth classes. Hospital-affiliated new mom groups. Seeing the same folks over and over at your OB or midwife appointments. Or, if you have a complicated pregnancy or birth, support groups. And that’s all great! But sometimes, it’s just not *enough*, especially in the face of the way pregnancy interferes with any kind of normal human interaction. For example:

First trimester: Hey, other mom, nice to meet you, you seem really cool! I’d love to chat, but if you come within 30 feet of me, the smell of your latte may cause me to hurl into my purse. Oh, yes, I’d love to hang out! Can we schedule something before 5pm? Because that’s when I’m going to pass out on the couch from hormone-related exhaustion.

Second trimester: Hey, other mom, nice to meet you! You seem pretty cool, and I’m feeling much better now, want to hang out? Oh gosh, I didn’t realize that you just had a miscarriage, I’m so sorry. The fertility treatments aren’t going well? I can’t imagine how hard that must be. Yes, I totally understand, with all that going on, it’s hard to hang out with me now that I’m showing. Well…it was really nice meeting you. I’m sorry, again.

Third trimester: Hey, other mom, you seem cool, want to be friends? Oh yeah, I’d love to come to playgroup! Is it okay if I sit here most of the time? Thanks – the Braxton-hicks get really intense if I stand up too long. A mom’s night out sounds great! Unfortunately, I’ve been put on bed rest. Of course, I barely fit behind the steering wheel these days, so it might have been tricky anyway. Plus I can’t reach around my belly to put on pants anymore. Seriously, just imagine a T. Rex in maternity jeans. Heck, I don’t even really want to put on pants. Maybe we can be friends in 6 months?

It gets even more complex if you already have a kid or kids – juggling work, prenatal care, and kid schedules doesn’t leave a lot of time to meet moms, even when you really need support!

The good news is that Mom Meet Mom will be able to help! By answering questions about your situation and your schedule, you’ll be able to meet moms who are in the same boat! If you don’t have the energy to meet moms in person, you can connect online. And if special circumstances like bed rest or pregnancy complications demand, you can find pregnancy support right in your area, even if T. Rex arms prevent you from changing out of your p.j.s!

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Straight Talk Tips for Meeting Moms

Becoming a mom changes your life and the people in it. Sure, you will always have your best friends from home or college, but what if they don’t have children of their own or live far away? Some of my closest friends are still tearing it up at single bars, and many of them live at least 30 minutes from me.

With this reality at the forefront for many moms out there, the need to meet other moms suddenly becomes a priority. Lucky for me, I’ve had success by following the tactics below.

meet moms - mom meet momGet out of the house.

Whether you’re a working mom or stay-at-home mom, when it comes to managing your kids, it is almost always easier to stay around the house. But the longer you stay in, the more isolating it will become. Get dressed, pack the kiddos up and get out of the house!

Stay local.

Whether you venture to a park, go for a walk or hit the mall, try to keep it local. The farther you travel from your home, the less likely you’ll meet moms that live in your area. It’s much more difficult to manage new mom friendships with moms who live more than 20 minutes from you, especially when you factor in naps, food, and activity schedules.

Keep your head up.

It’s easy to get caught up in your own world and your kids, but try to stay aware of the people around you. I can’t count the number of times I’ve walked passed another mom who was so trapped in what she was doing that she was completely unaware of her surroundings. When you’re out and about keep your head up and eyes open for other moms.

Break the ice.

This is where it starts to sound a bit like the dating scene. Most people have trouble initiating conversation with complete strangers. Remember that all moms share an unspoken universal bond with other moms. You immediately have something in common and something to talk about. Take a deep breath and leverage that commonality:

  1. Lead with a Complement – “Your baby is adorable! How old?”

  2. Find out where she lives – “Do you live in the area?”

  3. Get her number or email- “You know what? I get coffee a few times a week with couple other moms in the area before work. If you are around, you should join us! Let me get your email address and I will let you know when/where we are meeting next.”

Do it again, and again.

How long did it take to secure a close group of girlfriends? Meeting moms that you get along with most certainly won’t happen overnight and the odds of you connecting with your best mom friend on the first try is extremely low.

So that’s it. Just stick to the steps above and you’ll be on your way to some pretty awesome mommy friendships. And in your downtime, don’t forget to sign up for Mom Meet Mom. The cool thing about the site is that everyone on it is looking for the same thing – mom friendships. This makes meeting new mom friends fun and simple.

Please feel free to shoot me some comments/questions! I would love to hear from other moms RE: how you approach moms in your area.

Meet Moms Who Agree… and Disagree

I have this friend. She spanks. Before your brain dip dives into the gutter, I mean she spanks her kid. Me, I gave my daughter a tiny slap on the hand just once during a fairly horrible pinching phase and then vowed never again. Otherwise, my friend and I are generally pretty similar. We like to buy organic food but can’t always afford it. We’re not too uptight when it comes to our mothering styles. We both buy our summer dresses at Target. But she spanks, and I don’t.

Back when our babies were in strollers are we hadn’t yet really decided on how we’d discipline our children, we’d spend hours walking and debating the pros and cons of spanking. She was pro, I was con, and considering she spanks and I don’t, you can safely infer that neither of us convinced each other to come over to the other side. Still, I enjoyed our debates, and this fundamental difference in how we parent hasn’t impacted our friendship.

This isn’t always the case. In fact, this is part of what makes it so hard to meet moms. Moms who disagree on the following issues often have trouble being friends:

Vaccines. Circumcision. Breastfeeding. Cloth diapering. Homemade baby food. Pacifiers. Preschool. Religion. Spanking. TV. Veganism. Attachment parenting. Babywearing. EC. Co-sleeping. Going back to work.

There are plenty more where these came from. Too many. And especially on the Internet where no one has to look anyone else in the eye, moms are pretty quick to tear each other down over one another’s choices. Even moms who might otherwise be very close friends. But it doesn’t have to be this way. You CAN have mom friends who disagree with you on some of the fundamentals. Here’s how:

Don’t talk about it. Let’s say you and a friend fall on opposite ends of the vaccine spectrum. These days, it’s such a hot button issue that the key to preserving your friendship may just be keeping mum. There are so many other things to talk about in this world – do you really need to focus on that?

Don’t make it personal. When my friend and I discussed spanking, we talked in generalities. It was a little easier because neither of our children was of an age where spanking was a disciplinary tool on the table, but we can still talk about spanking today without mentioning each other’s kids. Debates over contentious parenting issues can be refreshing, as long as no one turns a talk into an argument.

Don’t talk behind backs. This one should go without saying, but if you meet moms who do things differently and you want to be friends, don’t go around bashing their choices. It will get back to them and you will lose their friendship.

Use respectful language. Maybe you and a mom friend disagree, but you’re more meh about the topic while she is deeply invested. In that case, treat the topic of your disagreement like religion (it may very well be religion) and don’t talk trash. You wouldn’t say “Oh, Christianity… that’s stupid!” so don’t say “Babywearing? That’s stupid!” Be nice. It’s a fundamental rule of friendship.

Consider what you can learn from each other. Sometimes moms with very different mothering philosophies can help one another achieve balance. Don’t discount how eye opening a diversity of perspectives can be.

Remember we’re all doing our best. The moms with whom you have to agree to disagree to get along aren’t making the choices they do to drive you crazy. They’re doing what they feel is right for their families just like you are. At the end of the day, if you’re both giving your kids lots of love and a happy home, many of these supposedly contentious issues aren’t going to matter very much.

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When making friends is more than just black or white

We have a mixed-race family – I’m white, my husband is black, and our daughter is super awesome. At home, this is no big deal; we talk about how mommy is pink and daddy is brown. It made it super easy to explain Martin Luther King Jr. Day (our 2-year-old daughter, confronted with the idea that people might be mean to someone just because they were, “brown like daddy,” giggled and said, “oh mama, that’s silly!”). But sometimes, particularly since we moved to one of the least racially diverse parts of the country, it can complicate things when it comes to making new friends.

Sometimes it’s little things. Other kids stare at my daughter’s cornrows like she’s some kind of alien. People make weird comments like, “oh, one of my grandchildren looks like your daughter. I think it’s just wonderful!” Except in more sensitive moments, I can usually ignore those sorts of things. Sometimes things get pretty sketchy – outright racist comments, and I don’t even want to tell you the story about the dad at the park who assumed that having a daughter with a black man meant that I was willing to…let’s say, “get romantically involved”… with just about anyone.

More often than not (thank goodness!), people are pretty cool, and we don’t have any issues. But I have found it helpful to employ a few strategies:

  • teach my kids how to respond to common comments: My daughter knows the technical names for the various hairstyles she wears (and adds her own commentary, like, “I like this one because the braids move like crazy when I dance!”), she knows how to explain that people with brown skin can be friends with people with pink skin, etc. I know I won’t always be with her when people make comments, and I’m glad that she is prepared to handle things on her own.
  • develop a support system: on days when I’m feeling more sensitive about the racist remarks we encounter, it helps to have friends to kvetch to, or who, when it happens in their presence, will rush to my defense (and, of course, Mom Meet Mom will provide great tools for connecting with supportive friends)!
  • talk to my partner: Sometimes I can’t tell if I’m being oversensitive or if someone’s actions were genuinely questionable. My husband has a lot more experience with distinguishing genuine racism from simple ignorance, and coming up with strategies for responding to both.
  • laugh it off, then follow up: some people just don’t realize that they are being offensive, and it’s better to let things slide a bit in the moment. If it’s someone who I expect to interact with repeatedly, I’ll reconnect privately with an email or phone call, just to clear the air.

Meet Local Moms: Tips for Improving Your Mom Meet Mom Profile

meeting local moms Every now and then, a mom joins our site, creates a profile, and… comes up empty. As in there are no matches generated. Sounds discouraging, right? But there are two reasons this might happen to a great mom. First, she lives in an area where Mom Meet Mom hasn’t hit the collective consciousness. When that happens, we ask for patience because we’re getting there, we promise! Second, there’s a chance that this otherwise awesome mom has undersold herself. Our nifty algorithm literally can’t generate matches without information, and moms using the site’s search function to look for new friends won’t find our hypothetical mom if her profile is bare.

We’re not saying you have to go all TMI to use Mom Meet Mom, but beefing up your profile can really make a difference when it comes to finding the coolest moms in your area and online. That’s why we’ve put together a list of tips that will help you create a user profile that shows the world just how amazing you really are.

Answer every question field: The more information you share, the more matches we can find for you and the easier it is for other Mom Meet Mom users to find you in profile searches. Plus, your answers to profile questions give other moms a real look at your lifestyle, personality, and what makes you so great.

Upload a profile picture: A picture lets people know you’re real and friendly, and yours will probably be the first thing other Mom Meet Mom users see when your profile comes up in match lists and searches. You don’t have to use a portrait – an image that speaks to you on a personal level is good, too – but showing your smiling face can make your profile more accessible.

Avoid negativity: If you’ve ever gone out for coffee or lunch with someone who did nothing but complain about her job and her husband and politics, then you know what a turn-off negativity can be. Positive people attract other positive people!

Personalize your profile: What makes you you? What makes your family unique? Go beyond the basic details and describe why you like and believe the things you do. A well-rounded profile is proof you’re a real person and sincere.

Proofread: Your profile is a lot like a resume – a friendship resume! At best, typos in your profile will keep you from appearing in relevant site searches. At worst, grammar and spelling errors will turn potential friends off.

Don’t overshare: Sometimes TMI really is TMI. There are things that we all share with our best girlfriends – and shouldn’t necessarily share with new friends or friends we haven’t met yet. A good rule of thumb is if you wouldn’t tell your kid’s teacher about it, leave it off your profile.

Be yourself: Sure, you could game the system by giving the “right” answers to every profile question – hint: there are no right answers – but the whole point of Mom Meet Mom is to meet moms who share your values. The more authentic you are, the more likely it is that you’ll connect with the kind of moms who will eventually become your tribe.

Oh, and there’s one more thing you can do:

Spread the word: You can actually help us make your (and other moms’) experience on the site better by telling your pediatrician, your OB, your midwife, and your friends about Mom Meet Mom. They’ll tell the moms they know about the site, and you’ll start getting matches in no time!