5 Things You Teach Your Kids By Having Mom Friends

What makes mama happy makes everyone happy – that’s the truth! And that means having friends.

local momsBut having a group of local moms to turn to when things get tough isn’t just good for mom. It’s good for her kids, too, and not just because it means there’s always someone to hang out with. Seeing moms interact with their friends early on is a great way for kids to learn how to be good friends. Here’s what seeing mom friends living life together can teach little ones:

You don’t have to share every opinion to be friends: There are so many parenting decisions to make that it’s unlikely you’ll be on the same page with every single one of your besties. I mean, how likely is it that you’ll find local moms who share your ideas about breastfeeding, vaccination, organic vs. conventional, daycare, and what kinds of shoes new walkers ought to be wearing?

But you do have to share: Someone forgot a sun hat. Someone else forgot a snack. Do you have a wipe I could use? Help, I need a little black dress for an event at my partner’s work! A mom friend will understand how you could walk out of the house without a single diaper for your three-month-old or a single change of undies for your three-year-old.

You get by with a little (or a lotta) help from your friends: Sure, it’s possible to walk through the world alone and make it but life is a lot more fun and a lot less stressful with folks who’ve got your back. I’m not saying everyone in your address book has to be a mother but local mom friends are a great asset to have when you’re on the verge of freaking out because your kids are nuts and there is still a month of summer left to go.

And speaking of help it’s okay to ask for it: Motherhood isn’t as easy as it looks from the outside which is why you need to build your tribe of mom friends so there’s a shared inside. The same goes for kids – childhood isn’t as easy as it looks from the outside, either. Having good friends makes the slings and arrows easier to bear.

Friends deserve to be appreciated: Moms are great at making their friends feel appreciated because we share everything. A little one just outgrew size 3 diapers and there’s a whole Costco box? Another local mom can definitely use them. Wine night? Is a great way to show your friends you care. Sometimes it’s one mom bringing the muffins and sometimes it’s another but we all do a little for each other and get a lot in return.

Mommy Breakups Are Hard to Do

So, I don’t know if you knew this, but I’m a mom.

Yeah, I know, I’m kind of surprised, too.

Anyway, life gets different when you have kids, and sometimes those differences lead to pain – and I’m not talking about the C-section incision. That’s right, I’m talking about the rash of friend breakups that happen when you have kids, ranging from intentional, fast, and explicit to the slow but inevitable drifting apart.

I’m just recovering from the world’s Most Awkward Mom Breakup. Picture this: shortly after moving cross-country with an 18-month-old, I manage to meet a nice gal with a daughter just a few months older than mine. We bond over mutual hippie values and the girls rapidly become best friends. We average at least one playdate a week for two years. Then I have a baby and write a blog post and suddenly she tells me, in response to my question about whether she will bring her daughter to my kid’s 4th birthday party, “now that you have two kids, we just don’t have that much in common anymore.” Uh-huh. Fast forward three months of zero contact, and I get the mother of all mommy breakup emails. In true breakup email form, it even talks about how she will always love me, but she needs to move on with her life.

Yowch.

Anyway, this whole experience has led me to think about better and worse ways to handle mom breakups. Obviously YMMV, and you have to think about the personalities involved, but here’s what I came up with.

  • Scenario 1: a new friend turns out to have a parenting style that just completely freaks you out. Breakup style: quick, clean, and impersonal. “You seem nice, but I don’t feel like we see eye to eye.” You can do this one by text or email without guilt.

 

  • Scenario 2: you love the mom, but your kids fight like wild dogs. Breakup style: honest, create opportunities for alternative meetings. “I love hanging out with you, but the way our kids fight stresses me out. Maybe we should take an art class together, sans kids, instead?” Try to do this one in person. Oh, and a side note: with older kids, this breakup becomes unnecessary – have a coffee date with your mom friend before going to work while your kids are at school!

 

  • Scenario 3: you’ve just drifted apart. Breakup style: let it be – unless it’s one-sided. If you’ve both reduced the intensity and frequency of contact, there’s really no need to have a formal breakup. If, however, you’re not feeling as close, but your friend is still contacting you a lot, it’s worth requesting a break. I’d be gentle; “things have been crazy lately and I’m just trying to focus more on my family right now. It’s nothing personal, I just need a break.”

 

  • Scenario 4: the kids love each other, but you want to claw your eyes out whenever you spend time together. Breakup style: If your kids are too young for dropoff playdates, either switch to activity-based get-togethers where there is less need to interact, or just nuke the relationship from orbit and tell her, “it’s great that our kids get along, but it seems like we don’t have a lot of common ground.” If your kids are old enough to drop off, do it!

 

  • Scenario 5: things just get…weird. (My personal example: the time one of my mom friends asked if we could swap husbands for a night. Not my style, not even a little bit!) Breakup style: quick and clean…or just let it end. Depending on how much drama would ensue, you can either say, “um, hey, that thing that happened? Totally freaky.” Alternatively, just schedule playdates less and less frequently until you feel okay stopping altogether.

I want to close by saying: mom breakups happen. Over the course of your life, you’ll almost certainly be on both the giving and receiving end of these, and that’s okay. There’s no need to take it personally! Plus, you can always make new mom friends – with 35 million moms with kids aged 18 or younger just in the U.S., even if your former friend was one in a million, you can still find 34 more!

Do you have an awkward mom breakup story? Please share in the comments!

How to Make Mom Friends in 7 Easy Steps

Making new mom friends is tricky. This isn’t news, obviously. It’s hard enough making regular friends, but when you’re also a mom, unless your kids are older, you’ll probably be interrupted every fourth sentence. And if your kids are grown, there is a nonzero chance that you’ve sort of forgotten how to make friends.

So, with that in mind, here are 7 easy tips for making mom friends:

  1. Start with the approach: with many apologies to the introverts among us (myself included!), if you want to make friends, you’re going to have to talk to somebody. It’s a good idea to be direct – “hi, my name is Julia, what’s your name?” Just be careful not to be too direct.

  2. Lead with your awesome: Is there something you love to do that you’re especially good at? It’s okay to talk about it! Your would-be friend might have a complementary interest that you both can share!

  3. Lead with your awkward: Maybe you aren’t momming it up in a half pipe or making Pinterest-worthy pillowcase dresses. Good news, neither am I! But I can bring on the awkward like a champion, and sometimes that is just as good at breaking the ice!

  4. Talk about the stuff you know you have in common: true story – all moms have kids. And while every kid is different, there definitely are certain common aspects of parenting that can serve as good conversation starters. Pick a milestone or a developmentally-appropriate misbehavior, go to town to the tune of, “kids, amirite?”

  5. Don’t let your kids throw you off your game: I’m not saying you should ignore the kids, but let’s take a baby step toward admitting that there is more to a woman than her role as a mom. It’s okay to pursue a friendship even if your teenager thinks your new mom friend is lame.

  6. Don’t overdo it: You don’t need to impress your mom friend by making seven different kinds of finger sandwiches on crustless, artisanal bread or anything. In fact, attempting such a maneuver is likely to get you in trouble!

  7. If it works out, celebrate! Mom friends are AWESOME!

What’s your favorite technique for catching a new mom friend’s eye? Share in the comments, or log into mommeetmom.com to find some great new friends!

Every Interruption Imaginable: Why Keeping Mom Friends Is Hard

I think most of us, when we were pregnant with first babies, kind of expected our friendships to suffer. Mostly because it’s not that unusual to lose friends when you’re pregnant. Creating life takes a lot out of you – you simply may not be the life of the party anymore because your idea of fun can change dramatically when wine, sushi, soft cheeses, and staying up all night are off the table. Enter the baby and getting together with non-mom friends is even tougher.

What most of us don’t anticipate is that being friends with other moms can be equally hard – and then only gets harder as babies turn into toddlers and toddlers turn into kids with dance classes and preschool and then school-school.

We’re all moms so the theory is friendship is easier because we get it. And sometimes that’s all it takes, especially for local moms with kids who are at the same ages and stages. (Like my friend S. who walks with me when the weather, the year’s cold and flu strains, and our children’s moods allow it.) But for a lot of moms there are all kinds of factors that make being a good mom friend kind of hard.

Like sleep deprivation. If you’re one of those lucky mamas whose kids started sleeping through the night right on schedule, go you. The rest of us will be over here in the corner rocking back and forth drinking high octane coffee and pinning each other’s eyelids up. How does sleep dep affect friendship? You forget things. Like the time I forgot I had invited an entire family of four over for Sunday dinner until I received the mom’s text asking what she could bring an hour before they were scheduled to come over.

(Seriously, I literally thanked God for that text.)

Then there’s the economy. Working vs. SAHMhood is just one piece of the puzzle. When you’re the only one in your circle of friends who has to (or wants to) go back to work after maternity leave or even later, there’s a good chance your besties are going to forget you exist  because they’re enjoying Tuesday morning Baby Boot Camp while you’re writing up TPS reports. But even if you all seem to be in the same boat could be you’re not. Lunch out with the kiddos every Wednesday is fun for some, a budget buster for others.

The little ones are another challenge to overcome. Same age and stage does not mean same naptime routine. Or the same tolerance for going to the coffee shop. A trip to the playground with a group might be relaxing for the mom with the independent kid for whom self play is natural and a nightmare for the mama with the shy kid or the needy kid or the kid who attracts bullies like flies. Or hey, the mom whose kid is the bully and it’s driving her crazy because she just doesn’t know how to handle that. Sometimes two moms have two kids who stop getting along – can they still be friends?

And finally, there is life interrupted. And interrupted. And interrupted. How many times have I sat trying to have a convo with a mom friend only to have our chat broken up at least once a minute by little ones needing juice or a wipe or to tell us what so-and-so said last week at school or just because they saw two grownups talking and now we couldn’t have that. No, sir.

Is keeping mom friends impossible? Of course not, but it is harder than you might think, So if you have mom friends who’ve stuck with you through not only the joyful times but also the tough ones, send them a message telling them how much you appreciate them. I bet you will make their day!

16 Fun Summer Activities to Do with Mom Friends (and the Kiddos)

Mom friends, check.

Babies and kids, check.

Warm weather, check. (finally!!!)

Now, what to do….

For some moms it can be awkward meeting mom friends. And once you finally start to build your local network, someone has to come to the table with things to do and initiate a plan. It’s time to get active and get social. And with summertime right around the corner, we decided we’d give you a little boost in the right direction. To help you out, we threw together some activities that are ideal to plan for with other moms in your area. So grab the sunscreen, throw aside your cabin fever and get ready for some summer fun mamas…

1. Hit the Local Museum: There are SO many museums and most of them are super family friendly. Pack a lunch or plan to swing by a family-friendly restaurant after. Pro Tip: Check out Groupon and other deal sites for admission savings. Also, some town libraries have stashes of tickets that they can sell at a lower rate to locals (score).

2. Walk to the Park: Why just go to a park or go for a walk? Why not do both? This is the perfect activity for moms with toddlers and older children. Plan your walking route to pass a fun park where the kids can get out and play for a bit. Pro Tip: stock up on popsicles… when it comes time to leave the park, it will give your little ones something exciting to focus on until they get home.

3. The Movies: For the newbie moms, you might just luck out and have a theater near you that hosts mommy and me movie times. And for moms of toddlers and older children, plan for a movie at your place! Prep your living room with pillows and blankets and order the newest kids flick from RedBox or Netflix. While the kiddos get lost in the movie, you and your mom friends can hang out in the next room. Pro Tip: Prep popcorn and/or other movie snacks to make it feel like a real movie theater.

4. Lunch Date: Just because you have kids, doesn’t mean you can’t go out to lunch. Don’t get me wrong, I’ve experienced the tantrums and other major restaurant #fails with kids, but I say it’s still totally worth a shot. And who better to take a chance with than another mom who obviously gets it. Pro Tip: Have a backup plan in place, should one of the kids flip out. Pro Tip: Go somewhere loud and family friendly.

5. House/Backyard Playdates: This is the cheapest way to play. Depending on the weather, invite your mom friends and their kids over for a good old fashion indoor or outdoor playdate. Pro Tip: once in a while, plan ahead with a fun activity for the kids. Ideas: fingerpainting, sidewalk chalk, kid pool.

6. Wine and Play Social: Best for a Friday or Saturday afternoon when everyone is ready to unwind after a long weekend. Invite your mom friends to come over for a playdate where they can really kick up their feet and relax. Tip: Buy or have one of your mom friends bring along some cheese, crackers, and fruit.

7. Drop and Play: For those rainy summer days, find an indoor play center. While the kids run around and have the time of their lives, you can kick back with your mom friend and catch up on some much needed adult conversation. A win win.

8. Storytime: Depending on where you live, there is a good chance you can find a local storytime. Most libraries offer this, as well as some local farms and other family friendly organizations.

9. Bonfires: This is my absolute favorite pick. What better way to spend a weeknight? Order up the makings for some smores, drag out the cooler filled with kid and adult drinks, send the kiddos hunting for the perfect marshmellow roasting sticks, pull out the lawn chairs and cue up a fire. TIP: if your mom friends have babies, tell them to bring and setup their pack n’ plays inside so they can put the little one/ones down and continue to hang out.

10. Backyard BBQs: Why stay inside? Throw on your George Foreman apron, order up some burgers and hot dogs and schedule a backyard BBQ playdate. A few tips: this is a perfect event for some fun music (if it were my house, you’d hear reggae music blaring in the background), pull out the kid pool or slip n’ slide, maybe throw together a fun kid and adult lemonade drinks.

11. The Pool: Find the nearest public pool, or if you have one, invite your mom friends over for an afternoon pool party. Make sure to check out our summer swim safety post first!

12. The Beach: What kid doesn’t LOVE the beach. Talk about a destination that works for just about every age group. Whether it’s your local lake or salt water shore, this is the perfect place to meet moms near you.

13. The Zoo: Plan for an all day or half day local zoo excursion. If you don’t have a major zoo near you, try to find a local farm or petting zoo.

14. Water Park: I still remember going to water parks as a kid. SO MUCH FUN. This is obviously best for older kids. Pro Tip: Pack a lunch to save money.

15. Splash and Play: I am seeing more and more of these. What is it? Simply a bunch of sprinklers that shoot up in the air that little kids can run through. We have them here in Boston and I’ve seen them in a few other major cities. A great free activity that will literally make your toddler beam with joy. Pro Tip: Pack an extra set of clothes and maybe some skid free water shoes depending on the spot.

16. A Boat Ride: If you live near the ocean this is probably easier to find, but some rivers and lakes have boat rides/tours as well. Pro Tip: Depending on the area, you might want to plan this for a day that is not too hot, unless of course there is a place to swim after.

Any moms out there have other fun summer activities? We’d love to hear them!!!

P.S. Don’t miss our local events slash mom social feature that will be rolling out ANY day now… Really, it’s going to be AH-MAZING.

XOXO

Why Meeting Mom Friends Isn’t Easy

Ever change schools growing up? I did – a few times. Can we say BRUTAL?

First I moved from a Catholic school over to a public school when I was in 3rd grade. I’ll never forget stepping onto the playground for the first time at morning recess. I knew no one. To top it off, I was quite small for my age, making everyone else (from my perspective) look like they were in high school.  And I’ll never forget that ONE girl. I kid you not she was rocking a short, curly hipster hairdo, a shimmery gold jacket, purple suede boots, and a Debbie Gibson hat. BAM – no prisoners for that one. She was on fire, just waiting to take out anything that got in her way. Instantly I was intimidated. Not one friendly nun to be seen. Welcome to public school, pipsqueak. You’re on your own.

What happened next?  I figured it out. We all eventually do. It took throwing myself into soccer games and any other activity I could find. Soon enough, the other kids started talking to me and I began to find my group of friends. We got super close. So close that I actually cried at our 8th grade graduation because I happened to live on the opposite side of the river as everyone else. Do you know what that means? Different high schools. Awesome. Time to start over. Again. Super.

High school was so much easier. NOT. Cue MUCH older looking girls with boobs that I certainly did not have, hot teenage boys, city kids, drugs, alcohol, and quadruple the population of my last school. Lucky for me, my mom was a teacher in middle school for the town that several of the kids at this high school went to. This would either help me or seriously hurt me. Might I add that my mom used to dress up as a globe for social studies lessons? That’s right, she would trek out of our house wearing a ginormous world. Super cool.

Fortunately (and to my utter surprise)  a few days into high school I am interrupted by shouts from a few guys: “Oh my gosh! No way! Mrs. Toland’s daughter!”

I found out she was one of their favorite teachers, globe costume and all. Never could I have imagined my mother helping me make friends in high school. I’ll take it, I thought. I’ll take whatever I can get.

Within days I was introduced to a group of girls who ended up becoming my best friends on the planet (no pun intended, mom). We had sleepovers, talked on the phone, slipped each other notes in class, and together we ran from the cops when our back woods bonfire/keg parties got raided on the weekends. It was so much fun. A dream. And then before I could blink, it happened. We graduated. All ten of us threw our black hats in the air and took off to different colleges.

It was time to start over, again. Ugggh.

Enter college-age me. Going through the exact same brutal “meet new friends” process. Seriously? Luckily, these things continue to work themselves out. Eventually you meet your new group of college friends, create insane memories together, and get super comfortable. BAM – right in time for graduation.  It’s been fun. Time to go home or wherever you need to go to get a job. If you’re like many of us, it means you have to travel to see your college friends maybe once or twice a year if you’re lucky. Time to make new friends. Again…

Depending on where life takes you next, you may face an additional stage where friend-making is once again a brutal start-from-scratch process.  Many of us begin to find ourselves and our independence, and then once again, life takes a turn. Some of us get married, some of us don’t. Some want kids, some don’t. Some of us try for a baby. Some of us adopt. And for some of us it will happen unexpectedly – maybe even before one or a few of the previous stages mentioned.  Regardless, all of us reading this experience a similar change: We all become moms.

Cue the most challenging friend-making time of our lives. Hold onto your carpets ladies because they are about to get pulled out from underneath you.  In an instant we find ourselves back where we started – back on that damn playground again with the same Debbie Gibson lookalikes frolicking around us. As in high school, the number of people we have to choose from to be our friends is overwhelming. How do we know if we will make the right decision?

You know, I thought that one mom was pretty cool until she invited us over for a playdate and showed us all of her husbands impressive guns in the back room. Time for a mommy breakup!

And just like college, logistics eventually play a part. Listen, I want to be your mom friend, but there is absolutely no way I will be able to meet you for a playdate after work if you live 45 minutes away. Not happening. Maybe we can get together once or twice a year? Where do you even meet mom friends? At the park? Grocery store? Gas station? HELLO, AWKWARD.

Oh, and while we’re at it, let’s toss in the new dynamic of KIDS. Will our kids get along? Are they at a similar stage? Is your child going to dropkick my child in the face because he has no manners? Will my child gross you out because lunch time means food everywhere and if you’re lucky he’ll find his way into his poopie diaper and start a poop war in your living room? It’s probably a good idea to gauge the compatibility of our children. Or if you’re cool enough, I don’t care. Let the dropkicking and poop wars begin. We can just kick back and enjoy some much needed adult conversation while our children destroy the place and each other. Should I bring wine?

Lucky for all of you, a few moms who have seriously been there (oh my GAWSH, the stories) came together to try and help you out. Mom Meet Mom was built to give you a little push toward the right group of mom friends. You have so many other things to worry about – why worry about how to make mom friends? Our goal is to help you skip over the whole awkward throw-up-from-anxiety I’d rather lock myself in the house phase. The best part: all of the moms on our site are there because they want to meet YOU. How cool is that? Oh, and they probably live right around the corner (go figure), and have kids that your kids might actually want to hang with. So before you freak out because EVERYTHING IS CHANGING, head on over to Mom Meet Mom and find your new best mom friends.

P.S. I bet you’re wondering what ever happened to Debbie Gibson. Wait for it….. she’s one of my best friends still today. Go freaking figure. You just never know.

Good luck mamas… you’re gonna do just fine ;)

Top 10 Signs You are a Mom On a Girls Weekend

Editors Note: The following guest post is from our good mommy bloggin’ friend, Whitney Fleming, of Playdates on Fridays.

I just returned from a girls weekend to celebrate my dear friend’s 40th birthday. It was fantastic. She somehow assembled an amazing group of ladies from the different stages of her life ranging from her college sorority sisters to business contacts she had turned into good friends.

Although all of us were very different, we shared the common bond of motherhood. Each of us could relate to the challenges of raising a child, whether it was: “Should I send my daughter to private high school?” or “When do I wean my son from the boob?”

We all needed a break, just like I believe all mothers do. Time to worry less about everyone else and more about enjoying life. Some of us needed a break from being a working mom and the pressures of juggling a career, a marriage and a family. And some of us needed a break from being around our kids so much that we forgot what it was like to wear real clothes.

Girls weekends give moms the opportunity to recharge and remember what their life was like B.C. (before children.) It is not about what you do, where you go, or what you spend. The important thing is to get away from the rut that can be parenting and connect with the people who know what it’s like to be in the trenches.

I like to believe I am a subject matter expert on girls weekends (check out my blog post on Five Signs You Need a Girls Weekend here or Five Signs You Have a Girls Weekend Coming Up here). No, I am not off galavanting every weekend, but I have been able to spend alone-time with my friends a few times a year. Sometimes, when my kids were younger, it was just a few hours; this last trip was a beautiful three and one half days in glorious Boston.

And although I came back feeling exhausted, with aching feet from dancing the nigh away, I now feel ready to take on the end of school craziness and the summer months with my kids. My husband did great shuttling them to all their activities, and I think it gives him a better perspective of what my life is like on a daily basis. My kids were bursting at the seams to see me and share all their adventures over the weekend. I think we were all the better for it (or at least that’s what I’m going to keep telling myself!).

So, although there is an unspoken rule that what happens on girls weekends, stays on girls weekends, I did want to share my “Top Ten Ways You Know You Are a Mom On a Girls Weekend.” I normally write Top Five lists, but there were just too many to narrow it down.

Let’s just say that I am going to use the same disclaimer as the Law & Order episodes: “Although inspired in part by a true incident, the following story is fictional and does not depict any actual person or event.” Yeah, let’s just leave it at that.

So here it is – Top 10 Signs You are a Mom on a Girls Weekend

  1. A Liquid Lunch has nothing to do with breastfeeding.
  2. After one cocktail and a Maki Roll you decide to lose your Spanx. You need two of your girlfriends to actually get you out of them in the restaurant bathroom.
  3. You log a night of dancing in a club as activity points into Weight Watchers.
  4. When mentioning you think you are about to get a blister, five different character-themed bandaids are thrust at you.
  5. When a fight breaks out in a bar, it initiates a discussion about time outs versus positive parenting.
  6. When you get “hit on” by a guy, you actually text your husband to tell him you still got it.
  7. The only time the discussion gets heated is when debating whose labor/delivery was worse.
  8. When the cabbie slams on the brakes, your hand goes out to protect the other passengers.
  9. When someone wets their pants, you know it was because they were laughing too hard, not because they refused to go on the potty.
  10. You wipe off the table with a Wet Ones before dancing on top of it.

Whitney Fleming has nearly ten years of parenting experience, 15 years of public relations and marketing experience, and almost 20 years of wine drinking experience. This make her extremely qualified to write a blog about family, relationships, and getting through this thing called life. To read more from her, please visit her blog at www.playdatesonfridays.com.

Featured Single Mom Sensation, Kerri Zane

All you single moms put your hands up for this week’s featured mom, Kerri Zane.  For those of you who may not know Kerri, she is an Emmy award-winning twenty year executive TV producer, healthy living expert, single mom advisor, spokesperson, speaker, and Amazon best selling author. This single momma of two beautiful daughters lives in Long Beach California and can be spotted all over the country appearing on morning talk shows and keynoting major events. We were able to snag her for this exclusive interview.

Let’s get personal right off the bat. You were married two times. Tell us a bit about these marriages and help us understand why they didn’t work out.

Wow! You don’t pull any punches. Though I dated my first husband for 5 years we were married for a short time. My second husband I met and married within 6 months and we stayed together for 12 years. So, no rhyme or reason there. I would have to say that I believe I chose similar men, neither really a good fit for our personality types.

You have two beautiful daughters. How have you lead them through these experiences?

I am blessed with two amazing daughters who never went through the “terribles” at two or in their teens. I believe it is the unquestionable knowing that I love them unconditionally and that they can trust me implicitly for anything and everything that makes our bond so strong. I also think that on some level they like parenting me as much as I parent them. In many respects we treat each other as equals. They appreciate the confidence I have in them that they will make the right choices.

  

You’ve created quite a brand for yourself as a single mom powerhouse. What led you to choose this path and how has it been for you?

Experiencing divorce is a trauma. For me I felt very alone, afraid and unsure of myself on so many levels. I wanted to create a space and a place for other single moms going through the same experience to feel comforted by the fact that what they are going through is not uncommon and there is a support for them should they choose to reach out.

Based on your Amazon reviews it looks like your book has been a serious guiding tool for single moms everywhere. Heck, I loved your book and I’m a married mom! Why don’t you give our audience a brief overview of It Takes All 5 and your 5 Finger Philosophy.

My book, “It Takes All 5: A Single Mom’s Guide to Finding the REAL One” is divided into three sections each containing 5 important concepts to master.  When put into practice they can help single moms heal their inside and outside.

The 5 finger philosophy is a guide to help women finally find not just ‘the one’ but ‘the REAL one’ for a happily even after “REAL”ationship.

Having worked with so many single moms, what would you say the number 1 challenge is for single moms across the board?

The most challenging issue for single moms is pulling herself back together, feeling whole and ready to re-enter the world of mating and dating with confidence.

We have many single mom users on Mom Meet Mom. Do you have any specific advice for these women as it relates to getting out there and getting social with other moms?

Don’t be afraid to reach out and build your village. There are no unimportant or silly questions and connecting with other moms is a wonderful way to make likeminded (and quite possibly lifelong) friends. It’s also important to understand their is no shame in asking for help. You don’t get extra gold stars for doing it all yourself, so don’t get all stressed about it. Share the load with other moms.

What has dating been like since your divorce?

I have a saying, “Dating is a journey, not a means to an end.” Single moms have had our kids and our white gown moment. Now it’s time to chill. There is no rush to get to the altar.  So rather than testing every guy you meet to see if he qualifies as “the real one,” enjoy the experience of learning something from every person you  meet. Even if its just that you don’t want to date someone like him again.

As a busy mompreneur, how do you set aside time for yourself and what do you do with that time?

I make a point of doing a 60 minute workout every single morning. Not only is it good for my body, but it is my form of meditation. It clears my head.

What’s your mom super power?

That’s funny, I never thought of having super powers. But I have to say I am a heck of a multi-tasker!

Aside from being an inspirational success for single moms everywhere, you are an educated lady. Talk to us a bit about your education and how it’s guided you to where you are now.

I received a BA in Sociology from UCLA and an MA in Spiritual Psychology from USM. My education has been invaluable in assisting single moms as they navigate undoubtedly one of THE most challenging times in their lives.

I noticed that you also have become a certified personal trainer and weight management consultant. How does health fit into your busy life?

For a while I thought I’d become a personal trainer, but the book and single mom advising took off. It’s an adjunct to my skills and I’m happy to share all I  know about nutrition and fitness with my clients.

You are running a pretty awesome webinar series. What will single moms out there gain from signing up?

Yes. I am so excited about my upcoming From STUCK to Success: How to Divorce The Drama & Become A Single Mom Super Star Project.  This webinar platform allows me to share with lots of moms, what I normally do for clients one on one. It’s geared for moms who might be Contemplating divorce, in the midst of a divorce, or still reeling from a divorce. Those feeling stigmatized by society for suddenly being single again or worried about how their kids are handling the divorce, or trying to figure out how to talk to them about dating after divorce

For anyone interested in learning more I encourage them to Join me for the FREE Call Wednesday, September 11 5pm Pacific | 8pm Eastern

Here’s the Opt-in link

http://bit.ly/17p8oZG

The Next 50 Mom Meet Mom Members Will Automatically Win a Dolly’s Adventures Book!

Call your sisters, call your mothers, call your babysitters! You don’t want to miss this fun new member giveaway. Starting today, the next 50 moms and caregivers to sign up at Mom Meet Mom will receive a hardcopy Dolly’s Adventures Book. Mother/Daughter author team Lynne and Alison Grossman creatively address positive concepts like sun safety, healthy eating, patience, and being a good listener throughout this engaging series. And the adorable clothes and accessories bring each book to life, giving your child a chance to play out Dolly’s adventures with their own doll.

For a complete Dolly Adventures Book review by Mom Meet Mom Co-Founder, Christa Terry and daughter, P., click here.

To qualify for this giveaway, you must be a new member of Mom Meet Mom. To enter:

1. Create a profile with Mom Meet Mom and make sure you upload a profile picture

2. You will receive a confirmation email containing a link to the Dolly Adventures website with a unique redemption code.

3. If you are one of the first 50 new members to sign up once the promo goes live and follow the steps above, you will be shipped a hard copy book.

And if you miss the 50-member window, you can still download a digital copy of the book for free for a limited time using the same code. Good luck ladies!


“The Dolly Adventures” is a series of fun, beautifully illustrated, hardcover storybooks that promote positive interaction and learning between a child and her doll. These child-friendly experiences transcend into real-life situations that teach valuable lessons ranging from developing healthy eating habits to practicing sun safety, while promoting kind behavior and a positive attitude. To learn more, visit www.dollyadventures.com