What makes mama happy makes everyone happy – that’s the truth! And that means having friends.
But having a group of local moms to turn to when things get tough isn’t just good for mom. It’s good for her kids, too, and not just because it means there’s always someone to hang out with. Seeing moms interact with their friends early on is a great way for kids to learn how to be good friends. Here’s what seeing mom friends living life together can teach little ones:
You don’t have to share every opinion to be friends: There are so many parenting decisions to make that it’s unlikely you’ll be on the same page with every single one of your besties. I mean, how likely is it that you’ll find local moms who share your ideas about breastfeeding, vaccination, organic vs. conventional, daycare, and what kinds of shoes new walkers ought to be wearing?
But you do have to share: Someone forgot a sun hat. Someone else forgot a snack. Do you have a wipe I could use? Help, I need a little black dress for an event at my partner’s work! A mom friend will understand how you could walk out of the house without a single diaper for your three-month-old or a single change of undies for your three-year-old.
You get by with a little (or a lotta) help from your friends: Sure, it’s possible to walk through the world alone and make it but life is a lot more fun and a lot less stressful with folks who’ve got your back. I’m not saying everyone in your address book has to be a mother but local mom friends are a great asset to have when you’re on the verge of freaking out because your kids are nuts and there is still a month of summer left to go.
And speaking of help it’s okay to ask for it: Motherhood isn’t as easy as it looks from the outside which is why you need to build your tribe of mom friends so there’s a shared inside. The same goes for kids – childhood isn’t as easy as it looks from the outside, either. Having good friends makes the slings and arrows easier to bear.
Friends deserve to be appreciated: Moms are great at making their friends feel appreciated because we share everything. A little one just outgrew size 3 diapers and there’s a whole Costco box? Another local mom can definitely use them. Wine night? Is a great way to show your friends you care. Sometimes it’s one mom bringing the muffins and sometimes it’s another but we all do a little for each other and get a lot in return.